Abstract: Given the frequency of suicides and parasuicides and the often comorbid negatively experienced effects of these behaviors, it is likely that the vast majority of couples, marriage, and family counselors will at one time or another encounter couples who survive family members' parasuicides or suicides. This article succinctly describes a modified neurolinguistic programming technique the authors have found helpful with their surviving couples. The technique is based on their collective couples, marriage, and family counseling experiences and presents a strength-based perspective.